Archbishop Nicholas Duncan-Williams has warned men to be careful of women who mount pressure on them to prove their love, because such women want to “kill” them.
As part of a Sunday sermon at the Accra headquarters of the Christian Action Faith Ministries (CAFM) on October 26, 2014, the charismatic preacher told his congregation that any man who succumbs to such pressure from his woman, risks suffering the fate of the biblical Samson, who became powerless after revealing the source of his physical strength to his lover – Delilah – after
Below is transcription of Duncan-Williams’ comments on that specific issue:
“You know something? I’m married. It’s not everything I tell my wife. I’m just telling you. Sometimes people will come and see me and she’ll see us talking talking talking and when they go she’ll say: ‘What’s going on? You’ve been talking for too long’. I say: ‘Nothing’. ‘Is there any problem?’ I say: ‘No problem’. ‘Is she ok?’ ‘Yes she’s fine fine’.
“Why should I tell you? It’s none of your business. It’s not part of the marriage vows. I didn’t marry you to tell you people’s business. It’s my job. It’s like a doctor: I don’t have to tell you details of people’s business. It’s none of your business. And you can say I don’t love you, you can say whatever you want to say, I’ve come too far to be manipulated by moods and tears, and you know, I told one of my sons, I say: ‘Whenever a woman say[s]: ‘You don’t love me, you don’t love me’, it’s because she wants to kill you [laughter follows from both Duncan-Williams and the congregation].
“You can laugh but it’s true. You remember Samson and Delilah? Delilah kept telling Samson: ‘You don’t love me, you don’t love me, if you love me you’ll tell me your secret, if you love me you’ll tell me your secret, if you love me you’ll tell me your secret’, and Samson was so foolish that he wanted to prove to Delilah that he loved her and told him the secret of his covenant.
“He fooled with three women. Delilah was the third one. The first and second, he didn’t reveal the secret. It was Delilah that got him to reveal the secret of his covenant, and when he did, he was finished.
“She vexed him to prove if he loved her. It was a provocation, and sometimes there are people who can vex you to prove and to show whether you are committed to them or not, and you have to know, when those days come that I don’t owe you: I don’t have to prove anything.
“And I told a son of mine like that; I said: ‘She’s provoking you; she wants to kill you’. You can look at me any way you want to look at me. I said: ‘The way she’s pushing you, prove prove prove’, I said: ‘Don’t prove anything’”.