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Happily married


Planning a wedding is stressful, challenging, and exhausting, but also joyous, exciting, and unforgettable. Who knew it would perfectly prepare you for the adventure that is marriage? The road to happily ever after is fraught with some treacherous terrain, and successfully navigating those peaks and valleys as a couple is, well, all of the above.
For insight on how to build a happy marriage, we sought out veteran married couples with a wide variety of field experience, from a decade of enthusiastically saying “I do” to over 60 years of successfully dodging marital mortar fire. Their perceptions may or may not surprise you, but one thing is certain: The real secret to a long and happy marriage is whatever works for you.
Never go to bed angry
“When we were first married, somebody gave us this advice: Never go to bed angry. It’s an oldie but goodie, and we have passed it along to others. Whatever is bothering us, we talk it out before we go to sleep so each day, we wake up with a clean slate and a fresh perspective. Saying ‘yes dear’ a lot doesn’t hurt either!” –Johanna and Brian, married 11 years
Don’t keep score
“When you see that something is really important to your spouse, it’s not losing or giving in to let them have their way. It is caring enough about another’s feelings to support and honor what is important to them. You will find if you compromise some of the time and they compromise some of the time, everybody wins.” –Julie and Billy, married 10 years
Learn each other’s argument style
“We tend to approach conflict resolution differently. Steve is not a talker; whatever the issue, his healing process is simply the passage of time. For me, the more time that passes without discussion, the more whatever it is escalates. After 29 years, we have learned to meet somewhere in the middle by addressing the problem with conversation but not beating a dead horse. Don’t get me wrong. I can beat it to death, but once it is down for the count, we’re done. Enough said.” –Marcie and Steve, married 29 years
Forgive and forget
“Learning how to fight has been key. Not holding a grudge makes for a happy marriage. When we argue, we duke it out verbally, then kiss and make up, usually with a shot of tequila — maybe two shots depending on the severity of the disagreement. Then we move on like nothing ever happened. It works every time! It’s important to keep moving forward and not dwell on garbage from the past. So the key to a long and happy married life: A bad memory!” –Donna and Jay, married 42 years
Don’t be afraid to speak your mind
“We live in a ‘free speech’ zone. When you trust that someone loves you and is committed to you, it gives you the freedom to speak your mind. Nobody is walking out the door simply because you have something to say that is difficult or unpleasant to hear. That said, we try to be truthful, not hurtful. Even in the heat of an argument, think before you speak. Never say anything you can’t take back!”–Susie and Jerry, married 30 years
Don’t take it personally 
“Though we share core values, we have such different personalities that Andy’s mother suggested we take the Myers-Briggs personality test early in our marriage to help us understand one another. The test helped us realize we are polar opposites about many things, and when we disagreed on issues, it was not that either one of us was trying to be difficult; we are just hardwired differently. We’ve had to learn to respect each other and be tolerant of our differences.” –Karen and Andy, married 31 years
Never lose your sense of humour
“Sense of humor is imperative — don’t leave the wedding venue without it. Apart from health and the welfare of our children, there is no situation that cannot be improved with a generous helping of laughter. It really is the best medicine. It’s okay to fight when you have to, but make sure you always leave ’em laughing!” –Susie and Jerry 30 years
Sometimes, silence is golden
“If you want to be happy for the rest of your marriage, never give your spouse advice on the golf course/tennis court/whatever sport or activity you are doing together. Never. Unless you want a really silent ride home.” –Jerry and Susie, married 30 years
Play by the rules 
“In our house, there are rules. Some are silly — for example, there must always be walkways. Translation: Don’t put your stuff in my way. Shoes must find their way into the closet, or one day you might come home to find a masking tape arrow laid out on the floor pointing the way. There are other rules that are more serious. When something bothers you, speak up. There’s no loss of power in saying ‘I was wrong. I’m sorry.’ It’s hard to stay mad at someone who apologizes. Relationship before ego.” –Cindy and Terry, married 38 years
Stay true to your core values
“What we’ve told the kids is that if you have shared core values, you’ll be approaching things from the same perspective. Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint and every marriage has its ups and downs. But when you have a meeting of the minds on the big issues, you know you will united in your approach to solutions. And he travels a lot, which helps!” –Karen and Andy 31 years
Equal division of labor 
“We have an inside manager and an outside manager. The other serves as an apprentice in our respective domains. Whoever cooks doesn’t clean up. One grocery shops; the other does the laundry. We have learned over the years to never complain about the job the other does. Shrink my best sweater? No problem, I can buy a new one. Botch a recipe? No problem, we can order in. We tend to laugh at our mistakes. Attitude is everything.” –Cindy and Terry, married 38 years
“Me” time for everybody 
“We take our “me” time seriously, and though it may not work for everybody, it works for us. Absence makes our hearts grow fonder. Take a lot of vacations…separately. Develop a lot of hobbies and enjoy them….separately.” –Mary and Eric, married 42 years
Embrace your ndividuality
Don’t look to your spouse to save you or complete you. Be your own person, and be true to yourself. Never use the words “We think!” Don’t change who you are to accommodate another person. In the long run, it will only make you miserable.” –Cheryl and Mark, married 38 years
Friendship first, last, and always 
“You can’t have a successful marriage without friendship. Over 30 years ago, we became really good friends. We hung out with each other’s group of friends and we became really close. After about a year and a half, we started to add romance into the mix and became serious. 30 married years later, we are still best friends who are always honest with each other and loyal to each other.”–Max and Kathy, married 30 years
Unplug to reconnect
“Listening to each other and really being present when you spend time together is essential. Be tuned in, not tuned out. If you are trying have a conversation, both parties need to put down the phone or ipad, turn off the TV, and really pay attention to each other.” –Julie and Billy, married 10 years
Keep the sizzle sizzling (or the Sizzle from Fizzling) 
While we were submerged in raising a family with all the pulls and tugs on the relationship that entails, it was easy to feel disconnected at times. So, we would create special moments to regroup and reboot the romance. We would take a fabulous vacation or a plan a mini getaway and if neither were possible, we would make sure to get a sitter and plan a date night just for the two of us. ” –Marsha and Alan, married 44 years
Just the two of us
“The secret for us was to start our life together away from all parents. We faced the marriage challenge on our own, carving our own space and growing into being our own family. We had no choice at the time, but the result was that it gave us a healthy foundation for the long term. If you live in a city with one or both sets of parents, make sure to set boundaries early on and don’t let either family interfere with your alone time or your decision making process as a couple.” –Beryl and Jack, married 45 years
For every love, there is a season 
“It is so important to recognize and accept the changes in the cycle of love. ‘Passionate love’ for the just-marrieds. ‘Reality love’ when the marriage becomes routine. ‘Sharing and nurturing others love’ while raising children. ‘Reconnecting with mature love’ when the nest becomes empty. No relationship can remain static; change is inevitable. The secret to maintaining a fulfilling, happy marriage is for both parties to learn to adapt to those changes so that you can continue to grow together instead of apart. Otherwise, your marriage will become a dinosaur — doomed to extinction.” –Rita and Steve, married 48 years
Be your partner’s biggest cheerleader
“The biggest secret to any marriage is to care for your spouse more than you care for yourself. That’s how you take care of each other. You watch each other’s backs. You take his side and he takes yours. When you are a strong team and present a united front, you can handle anything. You are each other’s person.” –Shirleen and Sandy, married 62 years
Make every day count 
“We respect each other, love each other, care for each other every day of our lives, and cherish every day we have together.” –Max and Irene, married 65 years

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There will be no approval of new ministers till you sign the LGBTQ bill — Speaker of Parliament tell President Akufo-Addo

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The Speaker of Parliament, Alban Bagbin, has informed the President of Ghana that his nominees for Ministers and Deputy Ministers will not receive approval from Parliament until he signs the Anti-Gay Bill.

This decision comes amid ongoing legal proceedings, including a challenge being heard by the Supreme Court, leading to the suspension of the nomination review process.

The MP for the South Dayi constituency, Rockson-Nelson Etse K. Dafeamekpor, filed for an interlocutory injunction, prompting the suspension and essentially halting Parliament’s capacity to proceed with the approval of the President’s candidates.

Additionally, the presidency has directed Parliament to halt the progress of the Bill on Human Sexual Rights and Family Values by sending a cease and desist letter, citing the ongoing legal processes at the Supreme Court.

Bagbin emphasized that Parliament cannot proceed with the examination of the President’s nominations amidst these legal proceedings until the Supreme Court reaches a decision on the interlocutory injunction. He stated that this decision aligns with the commitment to uphold the rule of law.

In addressing the directive from the presidency, Bagbin asserted Parliament’s dedication to adhering to the existing legal framework and rejected attempts to influence parliamentary proceedings. He also highlighted the receipt of legal documents from the Courts, including an injunction motion seeking to restrain the Speaker from vetting and approving the President’s nominees until constitutional requirements are fulfilled.

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Endorsement Brouhaha: “If I tell You I didn’t Hear Sarkodie’s Verse, Then I’m Lying” – Kuami Eugene

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Lynx Entertainment signee, Rockstar Kuami Eugene has finally reacted to Sarkodie’s endorsement brouhaha saying if he claims he did not hear Sark’s verse before his last chorus, then he is a liar.

Speaking to Abeiku Santana on Okay 101.7 FM’s flagship program Ekwanso Dwoodwoo, he said he has little to say since Sarkodie has not confirmed the rumours of taking money for endorsement. According to him, he only did his part as a feaured young artiste and wants to respect what Sarkodie says in this whole thing.

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“Sarkodie has not confirmed anything. He came out to clarify issues on twitter and I want to respect that. Somebody only asked me in an interview that supposedly if Sarkodie has taken money and featured me on the song what will I have done? And I said then he will be owing me some money. At the end of the day, as I keep saying I want to focus on the fact that I did a very good favor to a senior man, a senior colleague in the game. Just that few issues came about after the release of the song and the one that owns the craft has come out to clarify the issue. So that is why I am not bitter about this whole thing. I am not bitter because he has clarified it and since it is his work, there is little I can say about it” he explained.

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Kuami further added: “Before God and man, if I tell you I did not hear that line in the song then I’m being a liar. I heard it. Okay I did not hear the one at the end but I heard the one that comes before my verse. But then again, this whole process has been a management to a management agreement. So Sarkodie’s management sends a song to my management, we recorded the song. Later we go on set and realize there’s a another verse, I have to come back to my management and confront them about it. So they not been so quick to judge, I just had to wait and respect Sark while he puts the song out and do the right thing at the right time. So he released the song and there are issues, he has come back to clarify it so then again there is little we can do about it”

Story by: Reagan O.O.Osarfo (Nana Reagan)

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Amerado Features Okyeame Kwame On A New Love Song Titled “Kyer3 Me”

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Ghana's trending rapper Amerado after a brief announcement is out with what he calls the 2020 official Christmas banger titled Kyer3 Me.


The much-anticipated hiplife song features veteran musician Okyeame Kwame.

In the song, Amerado was seen taking advice on how to his partner from the experienced Okyeame Kwame who is known to be a lover boy.

The content of the song explains the concept behind it. Production credit goes to Azee Ntwene.

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Amerado is not new to the music industry. In 2017, Amerado released his lead single “I AM” which announced his presence in the music industry in Ghana. The song was rated 3rd in the Top 10 Ghanaian songs of January 2017 listed by Pulse Ghana. He released his first EP titled Rapmare under the MicBurnerz Music label in November 2017. He was called up later in 2018 to feature on the most talked-about hip hop song ‘Biibi Ba' by Sarkodie. The song was nominated for the Best Hip-hop Song and Best Edited Video at the 2019 Vodafone Ghana Music Awards.

In 2020 Amerado dominated the music scene by covering trending Ghanaian-related topics within each week and is basically a weekly roundup of major news but via rap.

The whole point of this project is to entertain his fans and to get more listeners for his upcoming and existing major projects.

Enjoy the new tune by Amerado ft Okyeame Kwame “Kyer3 Me“.

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